Monday, November 16, 2009

Ladiesssssssssss.... do you know how to listen???

Ladiessssss... so you know how to listen to ur spouse? I am the first one to admit that I have/had a listening problem. Back in the day, I would never listen to a significant other cuz I thought they were trying to control me. Long time ago... i was with a dude and we were feeling each other very quickly and pretty hard. Then one day he dropped me like a hot potato. My offense? i didn't listen to him.
I did something he specifically asked me not to do and I was too young and dumb to realize that it was for my own good and he was like if she doesn't listen to me now...will she ever???? Now it took YEARS for me to get that lesson, but I appreciated it after getting wtih Mister. the lesson that I learned is that it is IMPERATIVE to listen to your man knowing he is protecting you from what he perceives to be harmful and for your own good and you have to have FAITH that his intentions are good.  Now i say I realize later that it helped me when I got to Mister because  I KNEW that he meant me no good and that all of his advice/instructions was laced with manipulation. The lesson that I have recently learned is that I have the discernment to know the difference.

11 comments:

  1. Queen thank you! Smack juicy kiss on da foehead. Again Thank You. Whew my ego feel better.

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  2. If your man proves himself to be an ethical person, who shows you that he has your best interests at heart...then you shouldn't have a problem listening to him...if you trust his judgment, and trust how he has run or is running his own life...then there should be no reason for you to think that he wouldn't have your best interests at heart!

    Some women...sadly...either pick the wrong guy...or never learn the lesson! *smh*

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  3. yes... i was one of them.. until i picked the right one who showed me better... and did so without even knowing it.

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  4. I think you have to take each piece of advice individually. Don't blindly agree or disagree. no one knows whats best for you better than you do.

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  5. hey, keep on living and keep on learing and apply what you learn so the rest of your life might be enhanced.

    but as quiet2girl says, and I agree with dealing with folks on an individual basis.

    nevertheless, I am sure thats what you meant anyway.

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  6. You're maturing. It's a good thing.

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  7. even further than dealing with folk on an individual basis, you have to take each piece of advice on an individual basis. you may find yourself taking one piece of advice then ignoring the next.

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  8. I'm hard-headed at times and a bit mouthy. So listening has not always been my strong point...lol! Thankfully hubby loves me to pieces and is everlastingly more patient that Job. You speak a lot of wisdom, Queen. I'm with you on this post 100%, and I agree with what Saki said. It speaks to women being obedient to your man as the head of the household --but ONLY to and for a man who shows him self worthy to be obeyed (or listened to, in this case).

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