Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Personas....

I have a question for you guys. Is your online persona different from the one that people see???  I know for me, you guys see a much more vulnerable side of me than I EVER show in public.  Most people in person find me unapproachable, due to my physical stature, the seriousness in my deep voice and the serious look that usually accompanies such. My blogs are the inner workings of my mind and heart, something I dare not reveal to the general public.  It is much easier to display my insides to people I really don't know than it is to those who know me personally.  I really don't have to worry about the judgment calls here and since I don't know most of you personally, I really don't care! ha!

My point in this is that I like to think I am consistent.  Meaning, the person you see here online is the same person you will meet in person once one cracks the shell.  But I am one who loves to laugh whether online or offline!!!!

Many people aren't that way.  Have you ever met someone who was completely not what you expected them to be??  I have and all I can say is WOW!!!!

I believe many of you may be confused as to who and what I am.  I am not the softie that I show on here. In many ways, who I am here is who I wish I could be personally. Well, sometimes anyways.  I don't believe in being TOO soft or vulnerable with people.  Although I may be falling apart on the inside, one will never be able to tell that by watching me walk down the street.  Although I may show some of my weaknesses, inner turmoil , self doubt and insecurities (we ALL have them so don't FRONT) here online, does not mean I am a weak. 

Although this blog has gone in a completely different direction than I originally intended, I guess the point I am making is if one should ever meet me, don't EVER think that i am WEAK or EASY PREY to put up with your personal brand of BULLSHIT.  I sniff it way better than I let on.  Don't let my online lameness fool you.  As I used to tell Mister, I am not as stupid as I may look.  LOLOL  Those that have known me for years can tell you way better than I can ever show you
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69 comments:

  1. The only way people gonna know you is to be stuck around you personally.

    I'm pretty damn close to what I am online...Maybe a bit vanilla on these public sites.

    But I aint close to normal either.

    I do care a little about people understanding that I am who and how I am and I am grown.

    But people suffer too much.

    I don't.


    So I do what I do and keep moving.



    respect

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  2. Ok who is this REALLY for?
    To answer the question, what you see is what you get. I'm me all day online and off. I don't have time to be coming up with different personalities for mufukas I will never meet. Don't like how I do me? KISS MY ASS!

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  3. I'm the same offline as I am online. But I have run across PLENTY of people who feel like they can be whoever they choose to be online because "it's just the internet" or "it's not real". I don't believe in being fake.

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  4. I have seen a few more than My share of online people offline...in one way or the other.

    Whatever yall think yall are online aint NOTHING like what yall are in person in real life...

    Stop acting...lol


    respect

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  5. I don't think of it as a different personality, so much as one that I suppress personally. This is my sounding board, my chance to get shit off my chest, clear my head so I can go deal with these mofos in REAL LIFE.

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  6. serious... wanna go out sometime?

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  7. no... really... im a lot softer online than i am in real life with the people i know... in fact... i think you basically just spoke my mind in this blog!

    im loud... i get heard wherever i am... i am outspoken and i like to laugh so much that i am ALWAYS crackin jokes... sometimes im that person online... but like you said... its my softer inside that i dont let a lot of people see offline... cuz it can so easily be mistaken for weakness.

    and i dont pretend that i am the strongest person in the world... but i feel better carrying my own baggage and burdens... yanno?

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  8. I had to sit on this comment for a minute and think about fakeness.

    Yes, many people are fake, disgustingly so. For myself personally, I am not about trying to impress a bunch of strangers, that is for sure!

    I don't choose to be a different personality, i just find blogging to be, for lack of finding better words, cheap therapy. I have had more positive experiences than bad (although the bad was a damn DOOSEY).

    I am not quick to call folks fake because one may be the person they show online but have a desire to be that person in person because they may not be comfortable with themselves yet. For example, one that appears overly confident online may be the most insecure person you meet in person.

    However. this does not including the ones that claim to have all their shit together yet when you meet them, they are a freaking train wreck.

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  9. ok with all that said...why are you explaining yourself? What happened? Who called you fake? or who is the fake? Tell it. Maybe they need to know they are fake.

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  10. Sometimes it shows regardless. So why try to hide it? Honesty goes a long way sometimes.

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  11. I think I am more open... more reflective... more verbose online than if you met me in person... same me... but there is that anonymity factor that allows you to open up more than you would to folks you see and interact with on a daily. I mean yall don't know me... and because you don't... I can be very frank with my comments... and I expect very candid responses as well...

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  12. You and I are more alike than you think. LOLOL The gathering of the two of us should be a riot! LMAO

    and I will second that other emotion, nothing chaps my flat hindquarters (courtesy of Silkee) more than for people to mistake my softness for weakness. LMAOO Cuz then I feel bad when I have to snap off. lmao

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  13. you got it. nothing more, nothing less. LOL

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  14. Girl Bye! As you can attest to...don't shit change but the arena...damn fool online...damn fool offline...nuff said...fuck folks that don't know better...or are too stupid or arrogant to find out! Anybody that ain't feeding, fucking, or financing you...fucke'm and feed'em uncooked steel-cut oatmeal! Yeah...just like that! Folks can say what they want about me...and those that do just don't know...or had ulterior motives...either way...DISMISSED...ask around...*snicker*

    *SMMFGDH*

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  15. u arent lame and fuck people who think that having doubts, fears, worries and insecurities make you weak as opposed to human

    i'm like i am online in RL except i dont sound like i type

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  16. Yeah...well you know there are a few folks out here like this...we all have our moments...where the 'stuff' of life weighs heavily on us...it matters more with how you process it more-so than what others think of your manner of processing it...why would you care what THEY think anyway...know what I mean?

    Some folks say shit just to get a rise out of you...miss me with that! If you choose to share your stuff online with others...and they can't deal with it...they should click the little red 'x' in the upper right hand corner! *hmmph*

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  17. I think my page says it all, I have found it easier to be myself either online or in person. I have run in to a few folks from here who say they are one thing and in real life are a freaking train wreck.

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  18. What you see is what you get. Anyone who has met me can tell you I am the way I am online and off. IMHO it takes up too much energy to be anyone other than myself. I would be tired trying to portray myself one way online, then another off.

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  19. I've met quite a few people offline and have so much fun with them. Then there were people I met who after getting to know them i realized I should of simply kept them in the monitor!!! LOL

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  20. I think my online persona is a bit more, I won't say measured but I will say edited. If yall saw some of the stuff that I hit backspace on and decide to say in a less fuck you, ya momma, and the hairdresser who tricked ya dumb ass into walking out the door with that cut way. I still say whats on my mind, but I get a lot fewer DAAAAAMN's on line then I do in person. I mean while offline I have gotten better with my temper I ain as good with it as I am online. Online once I type that shit out, and release that little bit of pisstivity that was starting to build up, I can just cuss you out and move on.

    In real life if you annoy me long enough to get me to say something to you, your feelings will be hurt. But doesn't mean I'm gonna treat you like a leper, you are who you are. As long as your real whether our personalities mesh or not I still treat you like a person, and can chat with ya, eat with, ya fuck it we know where we stand with each other time is short lets live before we run out.

    People think I don't give a fuck online, in real life, you've not only heard me say it, but probably seen me show it. Life isn't a box of chocolates it's room full of inconsiderate people, with cell phones trying to overtalk each other when you have a raging headache. And your currently contemplating which is worse staying there or the death penalty cause you really may kill one of the folks fucking wit you right now. (under normal circumstances that may have gotten the backspace treatment but today I'm leaving it).

    I have too much fun being me, so while the name may not be my government the guy behind the keys is pretty much the same(maybe a little tamer minus alcohol, add liquor all bets are off)

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  21. Which is why I blog when I blog. Muffukas pay hundreds of dollars an hour to have somebody sit there and listen to them ramble on, and maybe give them some off hand comments here and there.

    I can do the same shit in a blog, post it on the internet and just let muffukas see what crazy shit was on my mind and I just saved a few hundred bucks. I mean if you have serious mental problems, yes go see somebody(preferably the folks with the stylish and comfy outerwear) but past that, most of whats therapuetic is just getting the shit up off your chest. You bottle shit up it comes back to haunt you period.

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  22. The primary difference between my online personna and my real life one is that I am a lot more quiet and reserved than I may come off here

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  23. I'm the same on and offline.

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  24. I'm probably a little more direct online than I am in person. I am more measured face to face. But I am pretty much a straight, no chaser type of guy. That is probably because I have to be more measured in real life. I would love to tell some people now I really feel, but that would not be considered politically or career enhancement correct.

    I'll for the most part, I will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. Sometimes the aftermath is not pretty, so be careful what you ask me. You know the saying don't ask the question you don't want the answer to.

    I tell people when they are dating not to treat it like they are going on an interview. Go in there and be yourself. Eventually they are going to see the real you and what is the fucking point of putting a ribbon and bow on a pile of shit if you are a pile of shit? I'm just saying......

    Oh, great pic BTW...

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  25. Shhhh....that's how some of us make a niiiiiiiccceeee living pimp...don't be telling folks the secret of it all....*wink*

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  26. Not that you need one...but I'm Co-signing on this one...yeah...I like how that sounds! *CTFU*

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  27. Yeah I know, my bad but hey I'm saying it and how often do folks take my advice? besides not everybody can deal with not getting a personal ego stroking with a pulse and some eyes they can plead with in person.

    I'm sure folks who do that for a living are quite safe. Shit if Doctor drew can put celebrities who have come for rehab on TV looking like jackasses, Flav still has a job, and brett michaels is still publicly searching for groupies yeah Drama king/queen ain goin out of style no time soon(yes I said that, no this is not getting backspaced)

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  28. people are complex to say the least so there are many facets to folks. people have a public persona, a personal/private persona...well i wouldn't call it a persona as much as they have a FACE they have to show in different places. you can not be all emotional at work so many of us limit our emotional expressions or range of emotions at work and even in public...that is not surprising for most.

    my blogs are who i am and what i think about SOME times....i couldn't possibly blog about EVERYTHING nor would i but a blog is still only a GLIMPSE at a person and some people allow more personal views than others but still nothing more than a GLIMPSE. i take people for who/what they present in person, blog, etc. i realize that you can't see a whole person until you have a real relationship with them.

    so to that, i don't think anybody is going to show you ALL of who they are unless you really know them in all aspects of their lives or at the very least, they allow you to develop a personal connection with them beyond the supreficial as a friend.

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  29. i bet you talk a lot in person....hehehhe

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  30. Depends on who I am around, if we're friends yup I can talk alot, if we ain sometimes you don't even know I'm in the room. I tend to scare the shit out of folks because I sneak up on them so often

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  31. My brother used to do that to me all the dang time. I termed it Ninja mode. Drove me freaking crazy!!!! LOL

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  32. so you creep people out by sneaking around them? LOL!! you are too funny......

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  33. Although this is not the point you are making, I have a real bad habit of running 20 questions down on a dude. LMAOO

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  34. That should have been my whole blog! LMAOO

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  35. Imma have to take a nerve pill to be around him!

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  36. Well the questions are unavoidable. I much rather have 20 questions to show your thought processes. It is the only way to find out about the person unless you got people doing background checks or you got bruhs filling out applications.

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  37. There is a way to sneak those questions in a way so it's done in a way that's not so rapid fire!!! *giggles*

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  38. rapid fire doesn't even begin to describe it. I almost feel bad for them. LOLOLOL

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  39. Thats the worst part about it I don't sneak around I wear size 13's and I usually wear timberlands. I just don't make a lot of noise when I move around, so it isn't so much trying to creep people out I just figure somebody stands next to you for like 5 minutes your ass would recognize oh somebody is next to me or at least hear my ass breathing.

    Ain my fault your ass would be first to go in a horror movie, being completely oblivious in the real world is asking to get fucked off, call it growing up in jersey but I like to pay attention to my surroundings most times, there I days I can get consumed too, but usually I like to look

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  40. nah just look up if you hear somebody coming, that or just keep a lot of heavily polinated flowers or wear strong perfume. I have bad allergies and sneeze like a thunderclap so easiest way to not get terrified because I speak up, or say hello.

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  41. Lol as long as your willing to take a few questions back hey you can ask away

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  42. I loved to be asked question. I can't stand for a man to sit their looking at me not saying anything!!!! My thing is, the more questions asked, typically, the more interested he is.

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  43. i like to converse, but not to be interrogated! lol

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  44. I've determined EVERYONE who spends an excessive amount of time online is CRAZY... including ME!

    seriously, ALL of my experiences have been interesting, NO ONE has been who or what i thought they would be... well maybe one or two people, but most are not their online persona... i run into some dynamic folks via blog, and somehow someway i start to communicate with them and slowly but surely they become something or someone else... the interesting thing is that it's never intentional, it's simply their way... as for me... well, i'd like to THINK that i'm the same, and for the most part i am, but others may feel differently, and, that's OK!

    whatever works is cool with me... but the ones that kill me the most are the "self righteous, they can do NO wrong, but you can't do wrong persona's" the ones on spiritual journey's on paper, but totally different journey in real time... it's interesting... this whole net, social networking world is different from anything I've ever experienced....

    let me also add this, spiritual journey is the new net thing... the best spiritual journeys are the ones you take by yourself! a person on a true journey doesn't need an audience to validate the journey... the journey is validated within...

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  45. Can we have this two paragraphs placed on a plaque and a few billboards. Oh and teal you get a few clit licks and ass pops for saying that cause it's so dayum true.

    Quoting the bible doesn't mean you understand what your saying, shit muffukas recite e=mc2 but can't tell what any of the damn letters stand for.

    Okay back to the blog

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  46. What do you mean? I bring my own spotlight and waterboard when asking questions.

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  47. Well what really gets me are the jealous bitches who's lives are a train wreck yet feel that they can comment on those who are actually striving towards something....*smh* Clean your own house first...before talking about how someone else keeps their home!

    What I find most disconcerting about CERTAIN people online is that they use bullshit tactics of ATTEMPTING to put down happy folks...or at the very least those with MORE HAPPINESS IN THEIR LIVES than they have in their own...seems to me that if you see happy folks in your midst...you should start working on your own shit instead of trying to pick other folks apart...*deep eye roll*

    People are so quick to point fangas at other folks and their methodologies/techniques for living happily/well and resort to envy or cruelty instead of trying to find out how to get what/where they have/are! I'm sorry...you don't like the fact that some folks got more...live better....are happier....hmmm...get a fucking clue then instead of attempting to put them down....look at your own shit...to uncover the reasons why you don't have/can't keep a man...can't pay your bills...work a dead-end job...etc...instead of hating on folks that are doing what they love or at the very least....loving what they do until they can do what they love...jealousy gets you nothing...except green eyes...and a smaller circle of people willing to deal with your green-eyed ass! Instead of talking/worrying about other folks...DO YOU...BETTER THAN YOU HAVE IN THE PAST...and keep it moving...stewpit!

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  48. Oh...and I ALMOST FORGOT...it's a simple bitch (male or female) that can't come out of their mouth DIRECTLY at the object of their disdain/envy...and instead choose to say slick shit out of their mouth at every turn...be an adult...not a silly bitch...and holla at that hoe you hating on...slick ass comments get your TRUMP CARD PULLED...ain't nobody stewpit but the 'slick commenter' cuz the hate is dripping from the bitch's mouth and it's written all over their face! TAKE FROM THAT WHAT YOU WILL...FOLKS ARE WATCHING...know that!

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  49. this is deep... and you're right, folks are watching, but WHY are they watching? what is the benefit of watching? what and where does it get people?

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  50. it's ok to question but nothing gives you the real info like BEING around someone and observing over time....no way around that.

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  51. just don't do that all at once especially upon the first date or you just chase a dude away!!! LOL!

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  52. you are cracking me up and i bet you are not doing it on purpose....LOL!!!

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  53. i don't totally agree with that because sometimes it's just about conversation not the interview....if he is conversing with you at ease and smiling.....he's likely interested.

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  54. My point exactly...they don't have shit better to do...and WATCHING gets them NOTHING AND NOWHERE...what they should be doing is taking care of their OWN SHIT...folks kill me with the stupid shit they do! I could care less about how much of yourself you reveal online...or off if you really wanna know the truth...as long as you are taking care of your shit...who cares what the difference is between the two 'people' that you are?!

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