I can honestly say.. I have forgiven all those who've done wrong to me so I can't really blog on this topic in that manner.. What I can do is give you a lesson on forgiveness..
Christ instructs us to forgive others from our heart... 77 times 7 if necessary. EVERYDAY. even for the same offense. The thing is.. and I can testify to this.. is that when you truly have forgiven someone from your heart nothing they do to you, no matter how badly they may slight you, it will not bother you in any way, shape or form! FOR REAL FOR REAL!!
I learned I had truly forgiven my mother when I found out she didn't tell me my aunt had passed and I found out thru facebook. I was shocked, which was a human reaction, but I wasn't hurt or devastated like I normally would be. I no longer carry the burden of hurt and disappointment over what has transpired in the past, what she may do and what she might not do. It's done. Im finished with it. The burden of unforgiveness does not bother the person you are not forgiving cuz they are still carrying on about their business as if nothing is wrong. The only person who is hurt by not forgiving is the person who isn't forgiving others. Hatred, anger, disappointment, bitterness, regret, fear, doubt... all feelings associated with unforgivness is not of God but a trick of the enemy to keep your mind off of God. Yes. it really is that simple.
Soooo Im going to share a lesson from my discipleship class.. it is a rather long read but here it goes...
FORGIVING OTHERS
By Don Krow
Today we‘re going to look at the subject of forgiveness from Matthew 18:21-22: “Then came
Peter to him [Jesus], and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven” (brackets mine). I think Peter thought he was being very generous to ask how many times he should forgive someone who sinned against him, ―seven times in a day, do you think?‖
Jesus said, ―Peter, not seven but seventy times seven.‖ That‘s 490 times, but it doesn‘t mean that after 490 times you don‘t have to forgive. What Jesus said was an impossible number of offenses that would happen to an individual in a day. He was saying forgiveness should be continual, that it should go on and on. Forgiveness should be the real attitude of a Christian. Jesus said in Luke 23:34, “Father forgive them; for they know not what they do.” And also Stephen the martyr, in Acts 7:60 said, “Lay not this sin to their charge.” Not all people will receive forgiveness, but the attitude in the heart of a Christian should be always to offer it.
Jesus tells a parable about forgiveness when He continues in verse 23 of Matthew 18, “Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of [make a reckoning with] his servants, And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. [The Living Bible says that is like ten million dollars.] But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all” (brackets mine).
Now, here‘s the situation:
There is a man who actually owes ten million dollars to his master. There is no way he can pay
it—he knows he can‘t and the master knows he can‘t. In those days, you couldn‘t claim
bankruptcy like you can in the United States—they‘d sell you, your wife, your children, and
everything you had, and you‘d go into slavery. You would be sent to prison until everything was
paid, and if it never was, you‘d stay in prison all your life. This man did the only thing he knew
to do: He got down on his knees and cried for mercy, ―O master, please be patient with me!
Please, I beg you. I‘ll repay you everything. Just be patient!‖ Notice what happened in verse 27.
It says the master was moved with compassion for him, and he forgave him his debt. We had a
debt we could not pay. The Bible says that the wages of sin was death (Rom. 6:23)—separation
from God for eternity—all the silver and gold in the world couldn‘t redeem us. Then God in His
compassion and in His grace sent His Son Jesus Christ to earth to pay the debt we couldn‘t pay.
God looked upon us in His compassion and mercy and said, ―I forgive you that debt.‖ This man
who had just been forgiven ten million dollars was owed something like twenty dollars by a
fellow servant. He found him and said, ―I‘ve just been forgiven ten 2 owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with
me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should
pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.” He threw that man into prison for twenty dollars after he‘d just been forgiven ten million dollars! Can you imagine that?
Verses 32-34 say, “Then his lord, after he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth and
delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.” This man was then thrown into prison because of the way he treated his fellow servant, and thus forfeited his
original forgiveness. Jesus said in verse 35, “So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto
you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.” Isn‘t it foolish,
having been forgiven all our sin— the wages of which are death and separation from God for
eternity—to refuse to forgive? We beseech God, saying ―Forgive me and have mercy on me
through Jesus Christ,‖ receive forgiveness, and then turn and refuse to forgive someone else for a little thing we think is so big—after having received forgiveness for all the things we‘ve done.
God‘s says that‘s wickedness.
I pastored a church awhile back, and there was a young woman in the congregation who was able to see things in the future. She came to me one day and said, ―Is it the Holy Spirit telling me things to come and showing me things in the future? I know when people are going to die and when someone is going to have a car wreck, and things like that.‖ I said, ―You won‘t like my answer, but I don‘t believe that‘s the Holy Spirit. I think it‘s a spirit of divination, the same spirit that followed the Apostle Paul around in Acts 16. He finally rebuked it and commanded it to come out of that girl and she lost her ability to tell fortunes.‖ I went on to tell her that I wasn‘t God, and said, ―I want you to go to Jesus and ask Him, ‗Lord, what is telling me things and giving me information, even before I was saved? Is it your Holy Spirit, or is it something else?‘‖
She came back to me one day and said, ―I talked to the Lord about it, and I think it‘s all right.‖ I said, ―Whatever the Lord says is all right—I‘m not the Great Shepherd.‖
This was in early 1986, and do you know what happened in 1986? We had a space shuttle called
the Challenger, and eight people went up in it. One of them was a woman schoolteacher. As this
young lady was watching television, she saw the woman saying, ―Tomorrow I‘m going up in the Challenger,‖ and talking about it. A spirit spoke to her and said, ―She‘s going to die, she‘s going to die. The next day when the Challenger was launched, it blew up as the whole world watched, and all of the crew perished. The young lady came back to me and said, ―Brother Don, I think what‘s talking to me and giving me information may not be the Holy Spirit. Would you pray for me?‖ Following the service that night, after everyone left, I took her by the hand and said, ―You unclean spirit of divination, come out of her!‖ Nothing happened. Jesus‘ disciples tried to cast an unclean spirit out of a young man once and couldn‘t do it. Jesus said, ―Bring the young man to me.‖ So I said, ―Lord, I thought I knew what was going on here, 3
but I bring this lady to you. Show us what‘s going on.‖ My wife was praying with us and God
gave her a word of knowledge. She said, ―It has something to do with her mother.‖ I said to the
woman, ―Will you forgive your mother?‖ The moment I said that, a voice screamed out of her,
―NO! She gave me away!‖ Then I said ―I bind you, you unclean spirit‖ and asked the woman
again if she would forgive her mother. She then forgave and released her mother and let her go
by the grace and help of God. She was able to let go by making the decision to forgive, and then
she received her deliverance and freedom. to me and giving me information may not be the Holy Spirit. Would you pray for me?‖ Following the service that night, after everyone left, I took her by the hand and said, ―You unclean spirit of divination, come out of her!‖ Nothing happened.
Jesus‘ disciples tried to cast an unclean spirit out of a young man once and couldn‘t do it. Jesus
said, ―Bring the young man to me.‖ So I said, ―Lord, I thought I knew what was going on here,
Just like Jesus said in the parable in Matthew 18, I‘m saying that if we do not forgive from our
hearts after we‘ve been forgiven such a great debt by our heavenly Father, we will be delivered
into the hands of the tormenters. What are the tormenters? They can be all kinds of things––
demonic strongholds, oppression, sickness, depression, disease, and many other things. The root is unforgiveness. Not forgiving after we have been forgiven allows Satan a foothold in our lives. The Bible says we have to make the decision to forgive. In the Lord‘s prayer (Matt. 6:9-11), Jesus said to forgive as we‘ve been forgiven.
Mark 11:25-26 says that when we pray, if we have anything against anyone, we‘re to forgive.
What does that mean? Unforgiveness should stay in our hearts how long? Only as long as it takes us to go to the Lord and pray. And if we have the slightest bit of unforgiveness against anyone, we should release them and say, ―God, I‘m letting them go today. I‘m forgiving them. I‘m making a choice because You forgave me such a great debt.‖
Lord, I pray for anyone reading this lesson that has unforgiveness in their life, that they make a
decision right this moment to let that person go, to forgive them whether they are living or dead. I pray they will let it go and let that hurt be healed by your power and your grace today, Lord. I thank You, in Jesus‘ name. Amen.
